I have DBT group today. I’ve struggled with the homework this week. It’s about mindfulness. I struggle with mindfulness. SO I thought I’d write about how I’m finding it as I go along, and write it up.
The first page I have to read is, “Ideas for Practicing Nonjudgmentalness”, leaving out comparisons, judgements and assumptions. On this page, I ticked the examples of practicing non-judgmentalness off that I accomplished this week. I’ve been trying to do this as I realise the response yields calmer results and responses within myself.
For example, when walking down the street I’m very likely to get overwhelmed and annoyed at people walking in my way on a wide path when there is plenty of room. However, in order to describe this situation non-judgmentally I wrote:
“In the street, people were everywhere and walking slowly in the middle of the path making it difficult to pass. My feelings in response to this situation are frustration and annoyance.”
Whereas my normal thought is more along the lines of, “Ugh, idiots are walking in my way constantly.”
My next task was to write a blow by blow account of something that happened in my day. I chose climbing because at the moment, climbing is quite emotionally charged for me.
- I cycled to climbing.
- parked and locked up my bike.
- signed into the center.
- Got changed.
- Saw R, had a conversation.
- Sat at table to wait for people and had a conversation with others.
- Went climbing with V.
- Had a break and drank a coffee whilst having a conversation with V.
- Said goodbye to people.
- Got dressed. Had a conversation with K.
- Cycled home.